There is no such thing as an incel. There are men who can't be arsed to take a shower, dress smartly or at least neatly, then go out and be pleasant to people. Their celibacy is entirely voluntary in the sense that they do not actively seek engagement of any kind with women.
Humans are pack animals -we are hunters, but a lone human can barely hunt mice effectively, so we hunt in packs. This is a alte development, however, a refinement on the family group socila structure of out great ape cousins.
There are Alpha humans. People gifted with what is called 'charisma' and innate leadership skills. They include people as radically different, but oddly alike, as Margaret Thatcher and Jacinda Aherne.