OK, the Overlord of Grouch will now cut to the chase!

Can it be that what is bothering you is the breach of trust?

You can lay it out any way you want, but the fact is that your mum did something she had no business doing with an item that was not her property and which you had trusted her to look after.

Believe me, you DO want to make a fuss! You want to give your mum the telling off she deserves. I'd even go so far as to say you need to do that, That it's not doing that which is making you feel so bad.

She's had a hard time, I understand that. But so has virtually everyone I know or have heard of this year. An explanation is not an excuse, however. For either of you. You need to have that talk, especially as this sort of thing seems to happen a lot.

In and among the CBT and counselling I got for my first major bout of depresssion, I found out one key thing. It's important to get your feelings out, and sometimes the only way to do that is to embrace your inner arsehole and intentionally upset people. Specifically the ones who've been upsetting you. You're having the bad feelings about this when your mum should be having them, and that's not right nor fair nor sensible.