OK, here's me being cynical ("What, you Tony?" "Yes, me!").
Proposition A: Harry wants no part of the Royal Family. He holds the institution, its' culture and the media attention it gathers responsible for his parents' divorce and his mothers' death. He wants out at any and all costs.
Proposition B: The Royal Family has moved, to an extent, with the times. Queen Elizabeth II, his grandmother, came to the throne because her uncle (Edward VIII/Duke of Windsor) insisted on marrying a divorcee in 1936. In the 1950s his great-aunt, Princess Margaret, was forbidden to marry the divorced Group Captain Peter Townsend, who she was deeply in love with. But by the 1990s. his parents' could divorce without a whisper about his father being barred from the throne, and by 2005 Charles had remarried the divorcee Camilla Parker-Bowles -again without demands he should surrender his claim to the crown.
Thus, in order to separate himself and any of his offspring entirely from the Royal family, Harry would require a scandal of no common order!
He then marries an American divorcee of mixed race and complex family background. An actress whose status depends upon her performance in a single, now defunct, television programme.
Now be it noted that Harry had all the time and resources he needed to school Meghan in the required behaviours to be a success in 'The Firm'. How to treat Palace staff (who are not, in the main, servants, but professional and qualified advisors and adminstrators), how to handle his brother and sister-in-law, how to cope with his grandfathers' peculiar and non-PC sense of humour, the dimwitted and louche uncle, the shy and quiet uncle and the demanding, no-nonsense father. Also how to ignore that daft old bat Princess Michael of Kent. But he didn't. He didn't even bother to warn Meghan that greeting Kate with a hug on first meeting was a really bad idea!
He seems to have gone out of his way to set up a pattern of misunderstanding and conflict between his wife and the rest of the family. Then he leaps heroically to her defence and gets to say all the things he always wanted to say.
Harrys' loathing of the media has not prevented him making masterful use of them. He knows exactly how to get the red-top papers to publish what he wants them to, which will in turn influence TV news, social media and ultimately the quality Press. By using third parties to brief against himself and his wife, he sets up a 'villains or victims' scenario which it is easy to keep going. He knows how to push his brothers' buttons (what younger brother doesn't know just what will enrage his big brother?). He knows, to some extent, what will push his father as well.
He's going to keep on doing what he's doing until the Royal Family finally and irrevocably cut him and his descendants out and sever all links. After that, I hope he has enough feeling and decency to stay with his wife and children. But I worry that he will simply vanish over the horizon and leave them to flounder.
