I didn't make that very clear, did I. Thing is, in purely practical, physical terms, the sex act itself can be indulged in for a relatively modest outlay in cash. Prostitutes do not require their clients to be Chads, but merely to have the price of the encounter to hand.

I therefore infer that the act itself is not so centrally important to these 'incels' as the context in which it is performed. That the idea of sex as being the result of mutual attraction and agreement (as opposed to a monetary transaction) is more important than the physical intercourse.

The establishment of a set of cultural assumptions which push not only the desirability, but the necessity and centrality, of a 'love life' or 'sex life' on both men and women is therefore a factor. The parallel insistence that relationships should be a matter for the individuals concerned to decide upon and build is another. Under these pressures, those who set unrealistic standards for themselves, or insist on seeing the process as a competitive one, or who simply lack the moral fibre to withstand rejection, will view themselves as failures. One way to get over that is to blame others. Once you can get online with other people who have decided the same, you can agree on and create a set of 'rules' which you can claim others have created to keep you down. These then become a self-fulfilling prophecy which feeds back into the echo chamber creating a greater intensity of feeling and increasingly extreme reactions.

Is that any clearer?